Time: you never have enough, always want more, but don’t want to take it. I don’t say that to be speaking harshly, and certainly not to shame you (this is a strictly no shame zone). I point out your relationship with time because it is seriously hindering the quality of your life. In fact, a poor mindset regarding time will cost you money, set you back on your health goals, and wastes your very precious time.
Feeling like you don’t have enough time or longing for more is the result of either living in the past or living in the future. Your mind is either trying to work backwards and see where all of your time went or in the future trying to figure out how you can carve out more. The result here ends up being more of the same. It’s rare anymore that you are living in the present moment. It’s rare anymore that you are utilizing the time that is right before you. There is time for the taking and you’re failing to take it.
I’ve found most commonly people are under exaggerating how much time they’re wasting in time sucks (like social media) and over exaggerating how much time a task will actually take. This will cost you money in spending and in potential money made. For example, when you feel like you’re short on time you’re much more likely to eat out. When you feel like you’re short on time you may even have a completely stocked fridge and still feel like there’s not enough time to cook it so you’ll stop and pick up food. The reality is, you’re not saving much (if any) time. The problem is much less about how much time you have and much more about how you FEEL about the time you have.
You may recognize regularly how quickly your children are growing up. You may be wishing you had more time with your friends or sitting there wondering how has two months gone by since I last saw a family member. You are regularly longing to have more time for yourself, for fun, for the people you love, more time with the ones you’ve lost. All the while your children may be right there playing in front of you. Your friends would love to see your name pop up on their phone. Your family member would enjoy just a quick 15 minute visit. You underestimate how much good a 10 minute walk alone, a 20 minute bath, or a 30 minute workout in your living room would make you feel.
All of the time spent longing for more time or feeling like you don’t have enough and still when it comes down to it - you don’t want to take it. In my line of work, this is a daily conversation. You have goals, you want to lose weight, you want to be healthy, and feel good, but you don’t want to take the time to make that happen. You look for a quick fix, follow another fad, spend more money and more time, often to land back where you started. This is the ultimate poor relationship with time. This is your life. This isn’t a challenge. This isn’t going to be over after 21 days. This is your life and it is your time to mend your relationship with your own time.
Spend your time living in the present moment. Ask yourself often, ‘what can I do right now to get me closer to where I want to be?’. Time is always there for the taking. Slow down. Live in the present. When it comes to your goals, stop looking for the quick fix and start taking your time.