I did a little experiment this week; I asked You First members as well as members of a couple Facebook groups to identify the three biggest roadblocks that are preventing them from reaching their health and fitness goals. I am happy to say I got the most heartfelt and relatable responses I could have imagined; some of these might sound familiar, or like you even spoke them yourself: no motivation, over commitment, no childcare, lack of discipline, lack of focus, lack of time, no follow through... the lists go on and on.
Heartfelt and relatable, right?
Now let me share a little something about why I did this experiment; selfishly, I was looking to hone in on the topics I really needed to keep talking about and sharing to help people succeed. My plan was to take the responses and categorize them by topic so that I could come up with ways to help but I kept getting this nagging feeling that no matter how different each response sounded there was one common factor ... I just couldn't put my finger on what it was.
I love listening to Podcasts while I'm walking or in the car and my new favorite is Having It A.L.L. (abundant, loving, life) by Matthew Bivens. So as I tabled my research experiment I start listening to an episode called You're So Full of It; Matt talks about a friend, Robert, and his health and fitness journey.
Robert, a big guy, went from being sedentary to being really active. He showed up for all of his workouts, he started running and he even ran a 10K; from what I understand, Robert became a complete sweataholic. But Robert's coach called him out; he told him if he put as much energy and effort into his lifestyle and diet he would see the results he kept showing up for a lot faster. And then Matt Bivens drops this amazing truth bomb and breaks wide open the answer I had been looking for: the problem is "you believe that your health gains or your health losses are the result of something external." Oooooouch.
Your kids, external. You job, external. Your spouse, external. The physical piece, external. What you have completely ignored are the lifestyle pieces, the emotional pieces, the consciousness of how or why you are relating to your health the way that you are. I'm not calling you out, I'm calling us all out!
We've convinced ourselves that we are doing everything possible to reach our goals and that some external factor keeps stopping us. Bullshit. As Matt says in You're So Full of It, "it's all internal - it all comes from within - it always does."
My challenge to you, right now, is to write down the three biggest things that are preventing you or have been preventing you from reaching your health and fitness goals. Then I want you to go back and write down why it is complete bullshit. After that, I want you to write down what you are going to do about it now that you know it is not valid.
I would love to hear about your roadblocks, your "BS" and especially how you are going to counteract them! If you are struggling with this, either coming up with your roadblocks, or feeling like they are legitimate reasons preventing you from moving forward, let's talk! I've added my email address under the signature and I would love to hear from you.
Sweat & Smiles (& no BS),